Perspective
In '86, when she had her aneurysm/stroke, she stayed over 3 months in hospital and it wasn't always pretty. They left her alone once in the bathroom (bad idea) and she fell off the toilet and was unable to get up or summon for help. This hospital stay has been a fucking fiasco - floods, fires, police, beat up hookers...anything but comforting or therapeutic.
I am appalled at the state of our healthcare system. Mom has been hospitalized with life threatening bouts several times over the past couple of years - we've never received any answers. We've deducted that they've been the result of a severe allergic reaction to (we think - no one's helping much with this) sesame products and msg. This trip to emerg was the same as all the others, check temperature, blood pressure, and all other vitals, then wait all night to be told "you can go now". No answers, suggestions, recommendations, NOTHING. But this bout was different than the others. Mom knew it and so did I.
When she originally went to ER, we stayed for several hours in the wee hours, then she was sent home. The next morning, when she had another episode, I took her back and had to fight, tooth and nail to have her admitted. Actually I threatened. As the doctor stood telling me she was ok at home and that she "could always call an ambulance", I informed him that he'd be accepting responsibility for that decision should something go terribly wrong. He quickly found her a bed and admitted her. It was the best thing. We need to know what the hell is causing her seizures (that cause her tongue to swell, nearly suffocating her. She vomits. She sometimes loses consciousness. She falls. Her blood pressure drops substantially). She CAN'T get to a phone at that point, let alone DIAL one. This doctor also said "what about you, can't you stay with her?". He had a point. And I do, most of the time. But I'm also a mom and the breadwinner of the family. Geez, I guess some people don't know what any of that is like. He obviously didn't. WE NEED FUCKING HELP. Dad's a ticking time bomb with his "bulging" aneurysm. He goes Oct. 11 (my birthday) to take care of that. Until then, he's supposed to stay "calm" and not raise his BP.....sending her home would probably be the end of both of them. I was told, flat out by doctors, there's not a bed to be had in the hospital. So let's keep building fucking condo worlds on every corner here - we need a trillion more people, don't we? If it's this bad now, what's going to happen? I am shocked that we can't access a hospital bed when one is so desperately needed. Maybe we could buy one? That, in essence, is what's happening here. Those with money can get what they need.
Note to my Government: DON'T LET PEOPLE KEEP COMING WITHOUT THE RESOURCES FOR THEM (US)...it's that fucking simple. Keep piling them in and then what? We die out on the street?
I don't get it. What's it all coming to? The place was a fucking dive - the bathroom's garbage was overflowing to the floor. There were people's urine/sample containers on the counter. Pee on the seat. The final straw is probably the bedpan full of stool that was placed on a footrest with one of those disposable little blue/white mattress pads thrown over it. It sat all day, in mom's room (it wasn't hers). Dried blood on the walls and curtains. I can't take it....I'm fearful that she'll get sicker in there than she was when she arrived.
Something's gotta' give. People who get sick deserve better. This fucking government owes seniors more dignity and compassion than this. And, in all honesty, I think some (not all) people get into nursing/health care for the wrong reasons - there is no bedside manner present in some of them at all. Like the lazy, yawning fatass nurse who "stole" someone's specifically planned meal from the food cart. "Whose is this, I'm hungry?" "Mrs. So & So" (reply). "Well I'm gonna' take it 'cause I'm hungry". "But what about her?". "Oh, they'll order another one up for her". Is that appropriate? I could go on and on, but I won't (today). Tomorrow I'll write installment number two of why you should care about the people you're nursing. (One nurse's solution to getting mom up out of bed was to pull her by her paralyzed arm, like a winch. "What are you doing?" I shrieked, from the other side of mom. "I think we can pull her up by her arms" said Nurszilla. "No, I think that's a bad idea and you'll hurt her as you pull them out of the sockets. She's paralyzed, not dead". God, give me strength.)
Suddenly, my stolen camera seems so unimportant.